Back in August I wrote a piece about a California teacher being fired after marrying his partner. He got booted because he dared to legally marry the man he'd been with for ten years, and school officials happened to see photos of the wedding in a local newspaper.
The lesson that taught his students was that it's okay to be gay as long as you don't audibly express feelings for your loved one or commit to him/her in public. That's wrong. Being honest and proud of your monogamous relationship is wrong. You can only be a certain amount of gay, the private kind of gay.
Or as John Oliver put it:
So you can have gay desires, you just can't take gay action. Which I guess means you can listen to "YMCA," but you may not under any circumstances do the hand gestures.
Gay men can have sex, as long as it's with lesbian women, within the confines of a loveless marriage. Just as God nearly intended.
In that post, I wrote the following:
Dear School Officials:
Being gay is not a "lifestyle choice," and getting married is not a "public display of behavior that is directly contrary to church teachings that are inconsistent with these values." Getting married is one of those family values you're so fond of espousing (no pun). But, darn! You happened to spot a photo of a ceremony in which two men made their devotion to each other legal, and that made you feel all queasy and icky inside, so you fired a well-qualified, popular teacher.
It's 2013 and marriage equality is here to stay, so try living in the present instead of your very intolerant, unaccepting past. Consensual love is a good thing, remember?
"Nothing can bring a real sense of security into the home except true love." Author: Billy Graham
Here we go again, this time in Minnesota, and this time the teacher had worked at the school for 18 years. Then she came out. It only took one day to fire her. Via MinnPost:
After enduring the Catholic school version of “don’t ask/don’t tell” for several years, Totino-Grace High School English/religion teacher Kristen Ostendorf unexpectedly came out to her colleagues at the 47–year-old Catholic school in Fridley on Aug. 21. “I’m gay, I’m in a relationship with a woman, and I’m happy,” Ostendorf blurted out to a roomful of 120 fellow teachers at a workshop. She was asked to resign the next day.
She didn’t, the school terminated her, and in a matter of moments the 43-year-old Ostendorf had become the second Totino-Grace educator to part ways with the school over sexual identity this summer (president Bill Hudson resigned in July after acknowledging he is in a committed same-sex relationship).
Ostendorf said, "Growing up, I never knew anyone who was gay. ... So I think that maybe, just maybe, kids, adults, and whoever can say, 'OK, there’s a real human being who really means to be herself and live her life and does it with integrity. She’s gay.' That’s a big deal. Instead of, 'That person’s a criminal.' I’m not a big fan of silence.... And the sad story is, I’d like to be the last person to be fired for who I loved, or for the gender of the person I love. But I won’t be, probably, and the silence around it terrifies me."
Silence is not always golden, and nobody deserves to be terrified of revealing their devotion to a loved one. Nobody.
Much more at the link.