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Rape survivor to TPC: "Say something and be barraged with accusations"

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rape victim it could be you Awhile back, our own David Garber posted this: Rape: Unspeakable Crime, But Not Speaking Is Also Not Responsible. Under that post is a comment by one of our regular readers/commenters, flan59 . She has graciously given her permission to post that comment here. She was raped by a "bad guy with a gun." Her words are electrifying, terrifying, brave, and deserving of a post of their own. Verbatim:

It's fear. At least in my case it was. Paralyzing fear. Of everything. It was over and I wanted to forget it happened.

I have always felt guilty and have worried that my attacker went on to rape others. It is the shame I live with every day... not the attempted rape...as I fought off my rapist successfully....who had a gun, by the way...

... and still, my boss yelled at me for sleeping with my window open as if the attack was my fault.

Yeah...so even me...asleep in my own bed...gets the lecture...I should have known better...sleeping with my own window open...what was I thinking? So you can imagine how a woman who was date raped feels...

Say something and be barraged with accusations...that is what women who are raped deal with.

And it seems the guy threatened them. That is why incest victims don't speak out either.

Flan followed up with an email:

By the way - all of the gun rhetoric and blaming the victim talk that is all over the news and social media has caused flashbacks and I am now in treatment for PTSD. My PTSD is caused by other traumas too - entire childhood with a verbally abusive alcoholic father - losing my twin brother Paul at 16 to schizophrenia - and then at 48 to lung cancer. I have lost several jobs recently because of it and am in serious debt, further sending me into my black hole.

I have found a great therapist and psychiatrist and have been in treatment for the last month or so. It was a good thing I started when I did because I lost my nephew in Jan and my sister-in-law two weeks ago, both under very tragic circumstances.

It seems the bad shit will never end. Then I hear the horror stories from my friends who have "Pauls" of their own who are getting incarcerated, victimized, becoming homeless, and dying from suicide or by cops - and it is all too much. I am so glad I got into therapy because I didn't know how much more of this I could take.

This needs no further commentary. Thank you, Flan, for allowing TPC to share your story, your feelings, your pain, and above all, your courage.

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Police Chief Shoots Himself And Blames His Fleece Jacket

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"One Adam-12, One Adam-12, officer down. Suspect described as a fleece jacket. It's armed, dangerous and warm."

TALKING POINTS MEMO:

A Connersville, Ind. police chief accidentally shot himself in the leg while doing some shopping at a gun store on Saturday, the Indianapolis Star reported.

“I need to pay more attention,” David Counceller said. “I know what the dangers are. It was pure carelessness on my part.”

Now this isn't just some rookie. This is the police chief in Connersville. And here's what I find interesting -- he blames his fleece jacket for the accident. Not his own personal responsibilities of taking all precautions while carrying a loaded weapon in a store. Oh, I amend that to read, a gun shop.

Evidently this "accident" happened while he doing what guys refer to as "dick measuring", pulling out his "weapon" to see how it compared in size to another.

Counceller, who was off-duty at the time, was comparing his 40-caliber Glock handgun with a newer model at Wullf’s Gun Shop. The trouble began when he began to holster his weapon.

“It got tangled in my clothing,” he added, as quoted by the Star. “I was wearing a sweatshirt and a fleece jacket. I felt (the gun) go in the holster and I pushed it, but it was tangled in the material which caused it to discharge. The bullet went into my leg and then into the floor.”

“It was just a little accident. Dave is an excellent marksman [evidently],” Urban [Connersville Mayor] said Monday. “Apparently the Glocks don’t have the trigger safety that they should have.”

Okay, but here's the topper to this bizarre-o story--

The gunshot wound Saturday is not Councellor’s first. Fifteen years ago, Counceller said he accidentally shot himself in his hand.

Was he wearing fleece gloves at that time? It might be a revenge shooting.

So I guess there's multiple lessons to be found in this story. Don't "whip it out" in public. Keep your finger off the safety when holstering your gun. If you shoot yourself once, learn from it. Or just don't wear fleece while packing your Glock. This time the Glock struck one, next time perhaps the Glock will strike two.

Take your pick. But most of all, remember this -- you don't need to be packing when you're going into a gun store. They already have the weapons. You  just need cash and an ID -- and maybe not even that. You just need to show you're responsible enough and know how to handle a gun safely. Being a police chief evidently isn't enough.

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Cartoons of the Day- Chris Christie Speaks

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The Obama/Mandela Tribute Faux Pas Heard 'Round The World

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Mandela's dead. We all know that by now. But the controversies surrounding his tribute are still going strong.

For the Republicans in the US, death for the South African hero wasn't good enough. First they had to publicly denounce the late freedom fighter and politician as a fascist, a communist and a murderer. Despite common courtesy of tempering criticisms of the recently departed out of respect, the GOP amped up their attacks. Even when Tea Party whackadoo Ted Cruz had given a lukewarm acknowledgement of Mandela's passing in a tweet, his own faction of his party turned on him. Evidently even common decency is shunned by the Tea Party and their main mother ship, the GOP.

Okay, Republicans, get over it. For a party that never truly understood Apartheid, Soweto or even that the country has three capitals, you sure get a charge out of criticizing a nation struggling to get a handle on poverty, crime and corruption.

On a day celebrating the life of Mandela, thousands of countrymen, women and children turned out to celebrate his life, not mourn. Millions watched on their TV's. Whether or not you agree with all of his politics, the man had greatness in him. And ultimately the world benefited from his 95 years among us. Leaders past and present, from approximately 100 different countries, turned out to share memories and pay tributes to the late leader. It wasn't a funeral -- but a tribute. And so it's quite amazing the outrage over this event and accusations of wrong doing by President Obama.

First, the "selfie." Obama Selfie

Since when is it wrong, bad or out of place to take a "selfie?" This wasn't a funeral. This was a celebration. The funeral will be in a few more days. Ever been to an Irish wake? Yesterday's event was that kind of uplifting tribute, not the solemnness of  interment. So let's cut the sh** and lose the holier than thou act.

Next, lets move onto the handshake:

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Yes, a common gesture shared by mankind in many parts of the world. Sometimes it seals a deal. Other times it's just a tradition or courtesy. It's meaning is no  more than saying "Gesundheit," "Salud," or "God bless you" after someone sneezes.

That is unless you're looking to make a statement, searching for anything to criticize. Then, the simple, the mundane becomes an atomic cloud of fallout. And so we have the controversial Obama/Castro handshake. Oh, and when I say Castro, I'm not talking about the one that's famous, one that everybody would recognize, Fidel. It's Raul. Think of him as the Doug Pitt, Brad's younger brother of the acting Pitt Brothers-- or Casey Affleck, Ben's little, but talented bro. This is not to diminish the younger siblings or their accomplishments, but they are dwarfed by their older siblings.

When I say Marco, you say Polo -- not Rubio. But the Cuban connection is a good transition. But what's even better is the explanation and consternation of Jon Stewart in last night's Comedy Central. He shows the inanity of the GOP'ers who are outraged and yet guilty of the very same "crime," a handshake: McCain/Kadafi, Reagan/Gorbachev, Nixon/Mao, Jerry Ford/Leonid Brezhnev, G.W. Bush/Uzbekistan dictator Islam Karimov and finally Poppi Bush/Hugo Chavez -- all Republican Presidents with despots and all exchanged handshakes.

So, here's four minutes which could soon be tagged with the moniker, "classic."

Now if the GOP is really that concerned with the hand gestures of political leaders, maybe this recent picture of Republican front runner for President in 2016, Chris Christie should be of more concern. Here's a picture worth more than a thousand words. Here's the New Jersey Governor recently and I don't think he was just reaching for a cupcake with a cherry on top:

Chris Christie cops a feel

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A perspective on soldiers "that may not be agreeable to many people."

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The Los Angeles Times Calendar section prints letters every Sunday in their actual hands-on, papery newspaper, the one I get every morning. Unfortunately, they do not post them online. So, no link for you (apologies to Seinfeld's "soup Nazi")!

However, I will transcribe one controversial letter that was worthy of note. It's a tough one to read, partly because of the many painful truths it lays bare, and partly because our instincts (and the media) tell us to "support our troops" no matter how we may feel about war, necessary or unnecessary, legitimate of fraudulent. Most of us do support the individuals, just not necessarily what they are often sent to do on our behalf. This letter prods us to analyze more deeply the people who wear the uniform.

Additionally, the author advances the "nobody sign up as soldiers" notion which would leave us to wonder how we would defend ourselves as a nation. But still, his points are as clear as they are compelling.

Agree or disagree, this one makes you think:

Jake Tapper offers that "we, as a society, in no small way caused this pain and inflicted these scars" [For Soldiers, a Postwar Battle Within," Oct. 6]. As moving and empathetic and noble as these sentiments are, his article fails, as with most articles of this genre, to consider a different, darker, hush-hush perspective of soldiers:

Regardless of why they volunteered for the military, they were of an age and maturity to know what they were getting themselves into, they had the same access as anyone else in this society as to why we went to war in Iraq and Afghanistan, and they certainly had access to other soldiers who had come home in less than mint condition to know that was was indeed "hell" and not just about cowboys and Indians.

In other words, dare I say that these soldiers have no one to blame but themselves? That all they are, are pawns of a government controlled by corporate greed and dealers of weapons of mass destruction (and further attested to by their negative treatment by the government that used them after they came home), and they bought into it because of their failure to use common critical thinking skills? Or because, under the guise and lies of patriotism, they just wanted to kick somebody's ass because they're young and aggressive and didn't know how else to channel their emotions in a more constructive way?

Of course I espouse a perspective that may not be agreeable to many people and many may think of me as heartless, but this is the truth as I see it, and somebody's got to state it.

In other words, if nobody signed up as soldiers, then maybe there wouldn't be any war and our society would begin to transform itself for the better.

Hewitt Morris

Fullerton, CA

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Video- Fox's Stuart Varney Previews Jobs Report By Pushing Myth About Obamacare Causing Part-Time Employment

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I swear that if there's no toilet paper in the Fox bathrooms they blame it on Obama. Via.

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Video- Donald Rumsfeld Blasts Obama's 'Red Line': He Will 'Blame Everybody and Anybody’ But Himself

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Ah, he of the unknown knowms passing on his pearls of wisdom. Via.

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