A special tribute and reluctant good-bye to our Paddy


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UPDATE: Please remember Paddy by signing this guest book. The Political Carnival will not be adding any other posts today in honor of our dear sweet friend. We will resume regular posting tomorrow. Thank you.


I apologize ahead of time for rambling through this good-bye to the best partner and friend anyone could have. I can't seem to form thoughts lately.

Paddy's wonderful brother Chris put together a loving collage of Paddy's life (below), and what a life she had. He had it enlarged to 18 x 24 inches, laminated and mounted for her funeral service today.

I cropped out the photo above, because to me, that is the mischievous, full of life Paddy I remember and love. But each and every photo in the collage represents something special in her all too short time with us, particularly the ones of her with her sweet husband Jeff.

For those who have been kind enough to ask, yes, the pain is still all-consuming, the tears still well up all day long, and the shock is still excruciatingly fresh, showing no signs of abating; but with time, we will get through this heart-rending time and be left with the best of memories.

We are all so lucky to have known Paddy Kraska. She was a fierce, loyal, passionate, smart-as-hell, talented, sensitive, caring, hilarious, loving friend and warrior.

I miss her so much. So much.

Anyone who knew her-- whether on line or personally-- does.

It's just not the same without my Padlock, not even close.

Rest in peace, dear Paddy. Give Scooby a hug for me.

PaddyCollagePostACRA huge thank you to Lucian (@lwdgrfx) and David (@linzack) for being so strong and keeping things moving as I crumbled.

A special thank you to Anne Laurie at Balloon Juice and to the beyond generous ajijaakwe over at DKos for her post, her huge heart and her continued help with fundraising.

And to every one of you who donated your love and/or what you could to help Paddy's family with today's reception, my heartfelt gratitude.

Thank you for letting me lean on all of you.

Most of all, thank you Paddy Kraska, for letting me in and always being there.

All my love,



For those who are only just finding out about Paddy's passing, here are links to previous posts:

  • Jack Boardman

    I can identify with what you are going through now, Laffy—and in time
    you'll recover.

    It was 1971 and my best friend was 24 when he was suddenly taken by a
    horrible freeway accident. For years afterwards I avoided that
    stretch of freeway because just couldn't handle passing the site of
    his death. Eventually that ended and now when I drive that freeway I
    remember him and smile a little, just a little, in memory not of his
    death but of our friendship and his quirky, dry sense of humor
    putting perspective the times we shared.

    May you find that peace.

    Rest in Peace, Paddy, you helped make the world just a little bit better.

  • Terise N'ha Caitriona

    I have gone too long and now am saddened and can only imagine how devastated to all must be. I only knew Paddy through emails, but she was a lovely, funny woman. My thoughts and prayers are with her friends and family.

  • Thank you for that, Nick. xo

  • +1 Linda. xo

  • Much love, Aji. You've been such an enormous help and comfort.

  • Thank you BeckyPants. <3 you.

  • DeVee

    RIP Patty. Bless you on your wonderful journey.

  • Nick Searles

    You made us feel like we were there. Thank you.

  • Linda1961

    Love the tribute to Paddy. What a lovely woman, no wonder you feel so lost without her.

  • Ajijaakwe

    Thank you, Laffy and Lucian; it wasn't necessary, but I'm honored. We'll burn some cedar tonight for Paddy; the smoke will carry our prayers for her and for her loved ones. We'll join you in mourning, but also in celebrating her beautiful life.

  • Pirate Wench

    A woman to inspire to. Rest well Paddy, you are loved, and you will be missed.

  • Rebecca York

    We will miss her so much.. What a wonderful person, altho, I only spoke with her on twitter a few times and in private a couple times.. Much love to her, her family and her friends everywhere!! Love you, Laffy Face.. Time doesn't forget, but it does heal... <3

  • And what a wit. And what insight. So under appreciated, so self-deprecating.

  • I love the collage. She was lovely inside and out. What a smile!

  • paullwolborsky

    I will now give a Moment of Silence for Paddy. Sleep peacefully...

  • Hugs. xo

  • joyhart

    Beautiful tribute, my heart is broken. Such a talent, a beautiful woman and friend to you. She will be greatly missed

  • You read what's left of my mind, Mellow. I tried to convince her of how talented she was, but it never "took." I thanked her profusely for being such a great ally, partner. But it never seemed like enough.

    I tried to get her to take better care of herself, to move out of Indiana's frigid environment, both politically and climately, but that didn't take either.

    But I tried. I really, really tried. I miss her so much, I can barely stand it.

  • mellowjohn

    From one of my favorite movies, "Waking Ned Devine":

    "The words that are spoken at a funeral are spoken too late for the man
    who is dead. What a wonderful thing it would be to visit your own
    funeral. To sit at the front and hear what was said, maybe say a few
    things yourself."

    I'm sure you told Paddy what a wonderful person and friend she was on many occasions, Laffy. I exchanged e-mails with her a couple of times and she was always very helpful. Wish I'd known her even a little bit.

    As I've said before, kiddo, hang in there. Thinking about Paddy will always bring a smile to my face and a lightness to my heart. I'm sure it will do the same for you.

  • Love you Threemo.

  • Frances R

    Love the collage! I was blessed to "meet" Paddy on Tim Corrimal's podcast. I loved her scratchy voice, sharp wit & crankiness! Rest dear Paddy. Grief comes in waves, you just ride them out. My deepest sympathy to all of Paddy's family & friends . Big hugs for my dear Laffy. It takes as long as it takes. xxoo

  • Thank you Ramona. xo

  • Thanks so much for sharing the photos of Paddy. Puts a delicious face on that amazing woman. Makes what happened even more heartbreaking, but this is how we heal. We remember.

    Wallow in your grief if you must, Laffy. Grieving is loving.