Sometimes it's hard to compute how much to leave as a tip in a restaurant. In the old days, it was 15%. Now people generally leave closer to 20. I remember growing up that my father, who was a very generous man would say that waiters and waitresses survived on their tips. Their base pay was so low.
He told me that if service was exceptional, leave 20%. If it was fine but short of the highest ranking, leave 15%. And if service was poor, 10%. I asked why even leave 10% and he said, to make a statement, to show that you didn't just forget. It would send a message to the server, but it didn't totally stiff them.
I asked him what if the service was good, but the food wasn't, what do you do? He said the tip was for the service not the food. If the food was bad, you just don't come back. But tips are strictly for service.
And that's the philosophy that my dad passed down to me.
So what kind of message does the following story pass down to their kids?
This was a family dinner with two kids. This means the children must have heard the discussion and reasoning between the two parents on this rude note in place of a tip. For these two adults to think they're so high and mighty that they can sit in judgement about someone's sexual identity is appalling. And to make a judgement based strictly on looks is even more of a stereo-typing blunder on these two parents. You have to wonder if they're worthy of being parents in the first place.
It's strange to me that if they were so offended by ex-marine, Ms. Morales' assumed sexuality, why didn't they didn't speak up immediately. They could have called a manager over and requested a different server. They also accepted the full meal service this waitress provided without a single complaint.
So she's good enough to serve this family, and serve our country as a marine, but not up to the standards of a reasonable tip. Sadly this isn't an isolated case. I hope it's not the beginning of an epidemic of religious wackadoos. Here's another case, not that long ago, late October, 2013:
From Gaystar News:
A Christian couple have caused outrage after refusing to tip a gay waiter and calling him a ‘fag’.
The waiter, 20, had just finished giving excellent service to a couple in a suburban Kansas City Italian restaurant.
But instead of receiving a tip from the couple, he received a nasty message.
‘Thank you for your service, it was excellent,’ it said. ‘That being said, we cannot in good conscience tip you, for your homosexual lifestyle is an affront to GOD.
‘Queers do not share in the wealth of GOD, and you will not share in ours. ‘We hope you will see the tip your fag choices made you lose out on, and plan accordingly. ‘It is never too late for GOD’S love, but none shall be spared for fags. May GOD have mercy on you.’
This, from a Christian couple. If this is their behavior, what does it say about the Christian teachings? Obviously these particular folks may read the bible, but they don't understand it. Their unchristian-like action is nothing short of rude and intolerant which in my world is unacceptable behavior.
If bigots like are demonstrative of what evangelicals are really thinking, they are in for a bumpy ride. Maybe it's time for their religious leaders to come out and condemn this kind of twisted, deranged thinking before it spreads too far.
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