This was really something. A woman attended a wedding with her boyfriend and evidently gave a hundred dollar check as a gift. This guest had recently graduated college and like so many others, is saddled with thousands of dollars in student loan debt. The prospects of keeping current on those, adding to living expenses and hoping to build for a future are challenging. Right now, this woman graduate is barely keeping current with the best she can do, a part-time, minimum wage job.
But wanting to share in the joy and happiness of her friend's nuptuals, she and her BF scraped together a generous sum, all things considered. So what was her reaction from the blushing bride? A Facebook message.
"Hi (Name removed), how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything." [all sic]
This is beyond nerve or gall. It's simply disgusting. Since when do we pay for our own meal, the argument behind the bride's reasoning. Who told her she had to spend $200/person for the event? And if so, how was the guest to know? Were the guests consulted as to colors, food, floral arrangements? If they were expected to pay for them, why not get input on these expenditures?
Wedding parties are overpriced and nothing more than expanded greeting card business.You're no less married if you held a barbecue afterwards at your home and spent it with friends and family. This concept of outdoing everyone else, then getting offended if the gift isn't commensurate with the party's cost, is asinine.
I feel horrible for the woman guest. I despise the bride. It's clear she now knows that the price of her friendship was $200/person. My friends are priceless and gift or not, it's their presence, not their presents that matter to me.